We might be living in a mans world but the Boudoir is a woman’s domain. Here is where we can bring a man down to their knees and remind them why Mother nature is a woman. It is necessary to empower our own sexual psyche and unleash the sex goddess within and pamper her. don’t do it to please others, do it because it is good for you as a woman and do it because you are worth it.
Somewhere during our evolution there developed a division in beliefs about sexual etiquette. From infancy boys are prone to bang and hammer toys , so it comes as no surprise, how they chose to exercise their male love muscles. Whereas females tend to be more subdued in their play. Females have better sense organs than males, these qualities are of special benefit to the female, particularly in the bedroom. Hence understanding and accepting gender role bias is as much a part of the process of decoding ones sexual psyche and unleashing the ancient natural sexual goddess within.
Within each and every woman there is an internal goddess who provides you with what is known as the female intuition, or female touch. So many of us have lost touch and are out of tune with this internal being and it is to our detriment. This very essence of womanhood is necessary in the knowledge of yourself and understanding/unleashing our natural sexual selves unashamedly. Know thyself and be confident in thyself.
It is a shame that being ourselves in this way can cause us to be exiled by many others, however, bear in mind that to comply with what others want, causes us to be exiled from ourselves. Another big shame lies in the way we become so hung up about our bodies. Did you know; that the curves of the female body outline are the most characteristic female gender signal, synonymous with female well being and therefore with female sexuality. So learn to love thyself in all your voluptuousness.
Traditionally in most societies a woman has had to be satisfied with whatever kind of sexual performance the man was capable of and could not complain about or criticise his performance. This was also at a time when women were conceptualised as having very few sexual drives, needs and appetites within themselves. However,these days women have become increasingly aware of their sexuality. The changing sex roles allow women greater latitude of sexual expression. Women are enjoying their sexuality and expressing it in a variety of experience. They are able to unfold sexuality by discovering and realising their sexual potential.
Sexual empowerment is about heightening your Emotional Intelligence, which is the ability to monitor and manage feelings and emotions in oneself and others. This can lead to a higher number of Orgasms. It is important however that one cannot over emphasise sexual performance and pleasure. Don’t set expectations that are too high e.g. Multiple orgasms are not a necessary part of every sexual encounter and lack of one should not be considered a violation of your right. One must accept equal right to sexual expression and pleasure as well as active sexual responsibility.
Making performance the sole male responsibility then judging them on definite and high standards, makes for unrealistic standards of sexual behaviour, strain and unhappiness and it becomes a major threat to men. At times increasingly openly admitted desire for sexual activity and pleasure on the part of a woman can lead men to face self-doubts and a diminished confidence in sexual performance. Many men may be unable to cope with the resulting unrealistic sexual demands and expectations.
The last thing we need is for sex to become a test situation in which both must display their skills and try to excel in performance instead of relaxing and letting feelings and emotions permeate, guide and enrich the sexual experience. Men and women should be able to share the responsibility of sexual performance and reach a greater degree of intimacy and pleasure through understanding. For more ideas and information on how to achieve this enhanced intimacy try tantra and its techniques discussed in Talking Tantra.
here’s a joke for you:
A man and a woman were having drinks when they got into an argument about who enjoyed sex more. The man said;” Men obviously enjoy sex more than women. Why do you think we are so obsessed with getting laid?” “ That doesn’t prove anything “ the woman countered. “ Think about this…. When your ear itches and you put your finger in it and wiggle it around, then pull it out, which feels better – your ear or your finger?”